Looking for a sperm donor
Where can I get sperm ?
You can get sperm from a sperm bank or alternatively you can use a connection service such as Pride Angel to actually meet the sperm donor and arrange for them to donate sperm directly to you.
Where do I find a sperm donor ?
You can use a sperm bank to locate a donor or you can search through our profiles of sperm donors and co-parents who are willing to donate sperm free of charge. Some donors wish to have occasional contact with the child and others would like to be more involved and wish to co-parent.
Do I need a sperm donor or co-parent ?
This depends on what level of involvement you would like the donor to have with the child. If you do not want the donor to have parental responsibility or see the child you would search for a sperm donor. If you would like the donor to have shared parental responsibilities then you would search for a co-parent. However some sperm donors may wish to see the child occasionally and not have parental responsibility, this is also possible.
How do I search for a sperm donor ?
Pride Angel has a basic search which allows you to search for a sperm donor or co-parent within selected countries. Our advanced search is unique to Pride Angel and allows you to search specific counties/states and allows you to choose specific characteristics such as eye colour, hair colour and height etc.
How do I communicate with the sperm donor ?
Recipients can communicate safely using our internal message system through message credits. We recommend you only give personal email addresses or other personal details once you free happy to do so.
What do I need to ask the sperm donor ?
When communicating with the sperm donor or co-parent it is important to be clear about the level of contact you both wish to have with the child if any ? You may also want to ask details about their family history and general questions about themselves in order to find out about them as a person. The donor may have previously donated through clinics and directly to women and have a number of other children. It is important to get information about these siblings and to consider the issue of any child unknowingly meeting up in the future, with the possible chance of having a relationship, the concern being that this can give rise to children with birth defects.
Do I need to meet the sperm donor?
Yes it is so important to meet the sperm donor and make sure all their details about themselves are correct. Meeting the donor also allows you to get to know a little about the person, ensuring that they are the type of person who is right for you. It is important to consider your personal safety when meeting with prospective sperm donors or co-parents. Initially meet in public areas and take a third person along.
What details do I need from the sperm donor ?
It is imperative that you get identification from the donor such as a driving license or passport. It is advisable to use fertility clinics for treatment however if you choose not to, it is important to check that the donor has all the necessary health screening tests completed prior to any inseminations.
How do I get pregnant using a sperm donor ?
We only ever recommend using artificial insemination using an artificial insemination or home insemination kit to achieve pregnancy. Natural insemination does not give a better chance of pregnancy and carries a greater risk of acquiring sexually transmitted infections. Also natural insemination gives the donor the automatic right as the legal father.
Do I need to check the sperm donor’s fertility ?
We recommend that if the donor has not had any previous children, that they undertake a male sperm test such as our Fertilcount male fertility test, to ensure that they have an adequate sperm count.
What health checks should the sperm donor have ?
All sperm donors and co-parents are advised to have health screens at their local GP and infection testing, which can be undertaken free of charge within a Genito-urinary medicine (GUM) clinic.
Do I need a legal donor agreement ?
All member’s are advised to get a written legal donor or co-parenting agreement in place before undertaking inseminations. Please see our pages on fertility law for further information.
Do I put the sperm donors name on the birth certificate ?
This very much depends on what level of involvement you wish your sperm donor or co-parent to have with the child. By putting the donor’s name on the birth certificate they are effectively the child’s legal father.